I had a friend recently that said to me, “I’ve been thinking a lot about it lately, what really happened that night that led to me coming home and the other night I asked you out on a date.” I could tell by his tone that he didn’t really want to say this, but I could tell him that it was true. I am not perfect and I get frustrated sometimes, but I still like to think people are good at forgiving.
That kind of thing often comes from having an irrational fear of a situation that isnt the problem. A few years ago I saw a young woman go through a divorce. She was getting rid of all her stuff, but her ex was not happy about it and started to threaten her. The fear was that she would be too afraid to get the hell out of his house and even if she did escape, he would find her and kill her. He did not.
I can say that the ex in question was not the problem. I can also say that if the worst that could happen to you in your life is someone like that, you do not need to worry about it. It is a fear of the unknown that is often a symptom of other more important issues.
The only thing that would be worse is if you had a bunch of stuff that you don’t want, and the guy who has it suddenly threatened to kill you if you don’t hand it over. That is a fear of the unknown.
For years I’ve thought of myself as a “man with a plan.” I have had a string of “plan”’s and “do’s” and “shoulds” in my life, but at some point I realized that none of them had a “right” answer.
The answer is not to worry about it. You only need to worry about the big picture. What is important is to focus on what is going to happen to you, and what you can do to make it happen. For instance, once you’ve decided that it is in your best interest to keep your ex from contacting you again, you have to stop him.
You have to stop him before he can contact you again. The more you let him talk to you, the more time he will have to contact you. If you don’t act fast enough, he will contact you again. No one wants to see that happen.
You have to stop him in the moment. What you should do is think about what you should do. What you should do in this situation is to make sure that you have no contact with him for at least a day. For instance, if you want to talk to him, you should not be calling everyone that you know. If you are in a party, you should stay away from other people, and dont let him talk to anyone. You can even call him from anywhere.
This is the one time when we’re really glad that social media has become so pervasive as to create a culture of paranoia. After all, now if a man is online, and he can tell you that he’s looking for a date and you see a picture of a girl, that means that you have to assume that he’s having a relationship with that girl right in front of your face.
If you know that your ex is meeting a new girl, or you see someone online that seems to be interested in dating her, then you should call him right away. You should not assume that your ex is dating that new girl because you know he is not. If you are in a party, you probably should call him. If you are not in a party, you should not.
