In a recent article, a friend wrote about how she has been in an abusive relationship for over thirty years and she did not know what to do. It wasn’t until she met with a therapist that she had the courage to come to the table and tell her story. The therapist told her that the only way to heal from the violence she experienced was to do the work, if you dare.
I think my friend is right and I agree that the only way to heal is to do the work. I personally have used the work to heal from many situations which would have otherwise made my life difficult. I have learned from the experiences that I have, and I am forever grateful for those experiences.
I think we all have been in a situation where we felt a bit overwhelmed and were afraid to even speak up about what was happening, but you know what? We do it anyway. We call it self-care, but that’s not what it is. Self-care is how you show up for yourself in your life, and when you do, you will feel so much better about yourself that you’ll be able to speak up in a much better place.
As a friend recently said to me, “If you’re not happy with your life, and you want to change it, then you can change it. It doesn’t have to be about doing things for a paycheck. You can change what you do to make yourself happy, and your life will be much better.
A lot of people who are in abusive relationships tend to take a passive approach to change. They do not take action because they dont know where to start. We do. It’s about starting to take responsibility for your own life. Taking action on your own, you can be the example to others, you can make yourself feel better in yourself, and you can become the person you want to be.
My sister and I were recently the recipients of an abusive relationship. There was no talk of the abuse, and we knew nothing about it until years after it ended. When we found out about it, we were shocked to find that our abuser was actually a woman, and she was still in the relationship. It took us a long time to realize that the relationship was abusive, but eventually we realized that our abuser was not only a woman, but that there was something deeply wrong with her too.
The thing is, abusive relationships are not new. They have always been around, and they will always be around. Whether it’s a relationship between two people in which one person tries to control the other, or a relationship between two people that is abusive from the beginning, abuse is always just around the corner. You can’t change who you are or what you’re capable of becoming, but the way you treat people can change.
Many of us are aware of the fact that if a relationship is abusive it can affect our health. As a matter of fact, people with abusive relationships are three times more likely to suffer from mental illnesses than those who are not. In fact, a relationship with a woman who is abusive is twice as likely to result in depression as a woman not in a relationship with a man who is abusive.
Abuse is something that many of us never really think about. It seems like an easy way to break up a relationship, but it can be the most devastating thing that we can do.
That’s why it’s so important to look at the abusive relationship you have and then go get counseling. If you’re in a relationship with someone who is abusive, you should really do everything you can to get them help. Unfortunately, for most people, it’s almost impossible to do without being hurt. And if you’re not paying attention to it, you’ll get hurt.
