I can’t say that I’m a fan of most internet dating services because they usually don’t do enough to filter bad behavior, but one thing that I find troubling is how the people who are supposedly looking for a relationship are so often the ones who’ve been through a bad breakup.
Thats what I think is happening here, the people who are looking for a relationship are the ones whose relationships have been broken up because of abuse. I don’t mean that in a negative way. I mean that they are looking for a relationship because they’ve been abused and they don’t know how to get past it. They’re looking for something that, if it existed, they would have found it in at an earlier time, but were unsuccessful in finding it.
It’s like when you go out for a restaurant and get a free drink and a free meal, you dont take it for granted. You realize that it isnt free, because you paid for it and youre paying for it again, and so you take it for granted. When youre in a dating scenario, youre paying for it, because youre already paying for it.
I think that the concept of “free” is an important one to understand. Its often used to mean “something that is never paid for”, but in this case the concept of “free” is something that was never paid for. So in a dating scenario, if your “free” meal was free and then you got tired of it and then you went to use the bathroom, you were never “paid” for that meal.
Sure. We all know that free food is never paid for. But for some reason many people seem to think that you should be paid for something you can never really afford. Free porn is certainly not free, but in dating it can lead to the same thing. You can become addicted to a thing that you can never really afford, and because you’re not paying for it, you think you can actually afford it.
I know I have an unbridled addiction to porn. But I don’t think I like it because I think I’m somehow making a bad bargain. I think I can find better sex elsewhere. Porn is only a tool to get me to my own personal climax. So I think there are a lot of people who need to stop paying for porn, because it makes them feel good and leads to other unhealthy behaviors.
Like many Internet users, I get a bit crazy about my porno. I love it. I always have. But I also understand there are a lot of people who are just looking to get off to it. Like I mentioned, porn is a tool. And like I have said before, I dont think I love it because I think I’m somehow making a bad bargain.
I don’t think my porn consumption makes me a bad person, I think it makes me a better person because I’m giving myself permission to go with my own sexual impulses. When I look at a porn star, I think of all the bad things that could happen to me if I dont have that freedom. It’s all in my head. It’s not a “bad bargain.” It’s a life lesson.
In the end, porn is for the people who can use it to explore their sexuality, not for sexual predators. That means people who have had sexual experiences with other people. I’m not saying that everybody who sees porn is a sex attacker or that everybody who watches porn is a sex offender, but I think it’s important to separate the two.
Also, I have a friend who is a high-level manager of a porn company, and I think that he has a really bad habit of calling his female employees “bitches” and “dickheads”. In his mind, these are not just words, these are actions. I don’t know if he has a history of this, but I can tell you that it was an incredibly bad habit and, believe me, I have experienced it myself.
