This is an interesting post and one I’m going to share with you. What I’m noticing is that when I’m in my “need” state, I’m more inclined to say yes to things. Then, once I’ve decided to say yes, I’m actually more likely to say no.
The point is that we often fall into a need-vs-want relationship. Wanting a situation is sometimes just a way of saying yes to it, and its often a way of saying no.
This is an interesting concept. When we talk about relationships we often talk about needing something. We need to be loved, needed, or needed by someone. When we say no to something, we are saying that we aren’t a good enough boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or father. Im talking about when you are in a state of need, and you are saying that you want that person or situation.
The word “need” is a great word because it means we are in need of something. We want something and we need something. We arent saying we need that person or situation, we are just saying we want that person or situation.
You can also use the word want when you are saying that you want to be that person or situation. But when you say no to something, you are saying you don’t want the thing you are not.
To be in a state of want is to be in a state of need. That’s a pretty confusing state. We are in a state of need when we are saying we want something. We are in a state of want when we are saying we dont.
The word don’t in these cases is to refer to something as not being. Thats why I said you can also use the word want when you are saying you don’t want something because you don’t want it. Thats why when we say dont we are saying we don’t want something.
Want and need often seem to be used interchangeably. I say that because every time I have been in a situation where a person has had a desire but not yet asked for it, I have felt both a need and a want. There is a state of want when a person has a desire and wants to have it, but not yet asking for it.
The word “want” is actually a verb. It means to want something. That is, to want something badly enough that you want to find and get it, even if you have no idea what you are looking for. Most of the time, people are very good at not asking for what they want. I know I am. But there are times where you need the thing but you don’t know what you want it to look like so you keep looking.
I know a lot of married people that have wives they dont want. It’s almost as if they don’t even know what they want their marriages to be. But if you look back on your entire life, what would you have had sex for? Sex for sex, sex for nothing, sex for anything, sex for any reason, sex for any reason at all. There are so many different things you can have sex for.
